{"id":1707,"date":"2008-07-24T20:53:00","date_gmt":"2008-07-25T00:53:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kissmyknits.com\/?p=1707"},"modified":"2008-07-24T20:53:00","modified_gmt":"2008-07-25T00:53:00","slug":"with-a-smile-and-a-song","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kissmyknits.com\/?p=1707","title":{"rendered":"With a smile and a song&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.tvini.org\/images\/misc\/TV\/snowwhite460.jpg\" hspace=\"5\" vspace=\"5\" align=\"left\" height=\"200\">Em&#8217;s been saying today, &#8220;I do not want to watch Snow White.  I watch it a lot.&#8221;  A week ago, she&#8217;d had it in heavy rotation for about a week, with it playing all the time.  That&#8217;s not an exaggeration, it was on every single moment she was awake that we grownups weren&#8217;t using the TV, and when we grownups were using the TV, she would stand next to it with the DVD in her hand, waiting for the all-clear.  When I wasn&#8217;t in the room, she would frequently call me back in to watch some key point.  If I left the room afterward, she&#8217;d call me back in.<\/p>\n<p>Snow White is a great movie, don&#8217;t get me wrong, but not ALL THE TIME.  Also, if she does something all the time, it dominates her thought and speech to the point where she can&#8217;t talk about anything else, which doesn&#8217;t make for great conversational opportunities with other kids.  Finally I had to gently tell her, &#8220;You&#8217;ve been watching Snow White an awful lot.  We need to turn it off for a while.&#8221;  So today, a week later, her saying &#8220;I do not want to watch Snow White.  I watch it a lot.&#8221; was her way of saying, <i>&#8220;I really want to watch this, but I know I shouldn&#8217;t.  So I won&#8217;t.  But I really want to.  But it&#8217;s wrong.  But I still really want to.  But I&#8217;m going to convince myself that I don&#8217;t.  Although I still really do want to.&#8221;<\/i><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s hard to know this sometimes, because on the face of it, &#8220;I do not want to watch Snow White&#8221; is a pretty simple statement.  But because I do speak fluent Mom, I got it.  Apparently just saying, &#8220;no, you can watch Snow White, it&#8217;s okay&#8221; wasn&#8217;t enough to reassure her.  So today I sat down with her and said, &#8220;You know, sometimes you like to watch the same thing over and over, and I know you really like that.  And that&#8217;s okay, I understand it.  But sometimes I don&#8217;t like to see the same thing over and over.  That&#8217;s why I asked you to turn it off.  But we haven&#8217;t seen it in a while, so it&#8217;s fine to turn it on again.  It isn&#8217;t going to bother me.  It&#8217;s really okay to watch Snow White.&#8221;  So she promptly got out the DVD and put it in, because as I say, she really did want to see it.<\/p>\n<p>She really does want to be a good kid, even when she doesn&#8217;t understand the rules.<\/p>\n<p>I started this post more than an hour ago.  Em insisted that I come in and watch Snow White with her, so I stayed for the whole movie.  She was giggling with glee through the whole thing, and discussing it in her fashion as the movie played.  Then she&#8217;d look back at me for support as she talked.  Love that eye contact.  She&#8217;s such a sweet kid.<br \/>\n<br clear=all><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Em&#8217;s been saying today, &#8220;I do not want to watch Snow White. I watch it a lot.&#8221; A week ago, she&#8217;d had it in heavy rotation for about a week, with it playing all the time. 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