Well, won’t this be fun.
At last night’s knit night, I wound up telling the tale of the postal clerk several times. Everyone was appropriately outraged, as I was by the time I got there that night. It was pointed out that since it was assault on federal property, it was probably a felony. I love the way my friends leap to my defense. Y’all are great.
The more I think about yesterday’s unpleasantness with the postal worker, the angrier I get. That guy would never have hit a male patron on the head. Ever. And I can’t excuse his behavior as being because he’s a teenager or “of a certain age.” He couldn’t be more than 50, tops. Of course, age isn’t an excuse anyway. My father wouldn’t do that to a strange girl, and he’s – sorry, Dad – close to being “of a certain age.” He’d to it to me, because he’s my dad, but that’s fine. Because he’s my dad. Not some random guy in a store.
He popped me on the head like I was a child. But I’m a 39-year-old woman. Unfortunately, the key there is “woman” which I believe he subconsciously saw as lesser. I’m not going to draw that out. I’m sure you can see where it’s going.
Unfortunately, I’m up at that post office several times a week, and I can’t be seething with rage every time I go in there, so I’m going to have to talk to him. I get that in his mind, we were joking around, and I was smiling at that point, so I’m not going to talk to his boss or be mean. But I do feel that I need to let him know that it’s not really appropriate to pop his customers on the head, and also point out that that kind of behavior in the workplace is a good way to have sexual harassment charges leveled at him. He won’t know if nobody tells him. Fortunately, I don’t mind being the one to say these things when they need to be said.
Still, not exactly big fun. Oh well.
ETA: I just stopped by, and the clerk wasn’t there. However, the new-guy clerk who helped me today gave me a lollipop. Ordinarily, that’d be no big deal, but on the heels of the other, it’s just becoming comedic. It’s me, isn’t it? It’s something about me that says, “I’m eight years old.”
Well, I guess the one thing is that if he complains to his coworkers later, they’ll probably give him a Look and say, “WhatEVER do you mean? is the picture of awesomeness. You must have really been a turd.”
Well, I guess the one thing is that if he complains to his coworkers later, they’ll probably give him a Look and say, “WhatEVER do you mean? is the picture of awesomeness. You must have really been a turd.”
Heh. This is true. If the guy’s an ass about it when I go to talk to him, I will be reporting it to his boss, who is a woman who seems to brook no nonsense. And since another clerk was there for the whole thing, I know Vinnie the postal clerk will back me up!
Heh. This is true. If the guy’s an ass about it when I go to talk to him, I will be reporting it to his boss, who is a woman who seems to brook no nonsense. And since another clerk was there for the whole thing, I know Vinnie the postal clerk will back me up!
Watch this. It will make you feel better about the way the world is and that change is possible.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=cYaczoJMRhs
Sarah
Watch this. It will make you feel better about the way the world is and that change is possible.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=cYaczoJMRhs
Sarah
Yes, I think a quiet word is the right way to go there, just so he knows that it was a ‘nuh-uh’ kind of situation. I’m one of those people who is, whilst not afraid/against physical contact with other people, am very aware of physical contact. I don’t often touch other people – well, I mean stuff like handshakes and the like is normal, obviously – unless they’re friends, and I know they’re not going to take it the wrong way if I clap them on the shoulder or something. If that’d happened to me I would’ve been keenly aware of the ‘wrong’ of it.
As a sidenote: If you’re in an annoyed/angry mood already, why not look at this instead? Honestly I find the whole analysis a little contrived, forced, what-have-you, but I figure it’s good redirection for any residual Tvini-anger. I am in no way against the feminist standpoint, but honestly. Turns out feminists can be crazy, just like everyone else!
Yes, I think a quiet word is the right way to go there, just so he knows that it was a ‘nuh-uh’ kind of situation. I’m one of those people who is, whilst not afraid/against physical contact with other people, am very aware of physical contact. I don’t often touch other people – well, I mean stuff like handshakes and the like is normal, obviously – unless they’re friends, and I know they’re not going to take it the wrong way if I clap them on the shoulder or something. If that’d happened to me I would’ve been keenly aware of the ‘wrong’ of it.
As a sidenote: If you’re in an annoyed/angry mood already, why not look at this instead? Honestly I find the whole analysis a little contrived, forced, what-have-you, but I figure it’s good redirection for any residual Tvini-anger. I am in no way against the feminist standpoint, but honestly. Turns out feminists can be crazy, just like everyone else!
wait, WHAT? *goes back to read last post*
Yea, no way in hell that would happen to a male customer of your age. Wtf.
wait, WHAT? *goes back to read last post*
Yea, no way in hell that would happen to a male customer of your age. Wtf.
Oh, good grief. Yes, over-analysis.
Oh, good grief. Yes, over-analysis.
I honestly think my brain broke.
I honestly think my brain broke.
I just noticed this bit highlighted in the comments: Let me just say now that I have never personally known of a healthy relationship between a white man and a woman of colour.
Oh boy. Well I guess such relationships must not exist yet! I better run home and tell my husband our relationship is inherently unhealthy.
People are dumb.
I just noticed this bit highlighted in the comments: Let me just say now that I have never personally known of a healthy relationship between a white man and a woman of colour.
Oh boy. Well I guess such relationships must not exist yet! I better run home and tell my husband our relationship is inherently unhealthy.
People are dumb.
Oh, gosh! All this time and you never knew. /sarcasticjerk
There’s another interesting one in the comments where someone – namely LJ user asks if there is ANY plot she wouldn’t object to, based on the viewpoint she projects in there… It’s a great counterpoint, but she just sidesteps it.
I think it just goes to show that you can create any ‘justifiable’ argument if you
forcetry hard enough.Oh, gosh! All this time and you never knew. /sarcasticjerk
There’s another interesting one in the comments where someone – namely LJ user asks if there is ANY plot she wouldn’t object to, based on the viewpoint she projects in there… It’s a great counterpoint, but she just sidesteps it.
I think it just goes to show that you can create any ‘justifiable’ argument if you
forcetry hard enough.Yeah, there was that, and then there was defining Joss Whedon as a rapist because all heterosexual sex initiated by a man, consensual or not, is rape.
Yikes.
I was willing to consider some of her points until I realized how extreme some of her personal biases are. Sadly, no one political group has a monopoly on “crazy.”
Yeah, there was that, and then there was defining Joss Whedon as a rapist because all heterosexual sex initiated by a man, consensual or not, is rape.
Yikes.
I was willing to consider some of her points until I realized how extreme some of her personal biases are. Sadly, no one political group has a monopoly on “crazy.”
Well, yea. I mean, if you believe that if a woman consents to sex with her partner, but doesn’t really feel like doing it, then she’s been raped . . . how can you ever watch/read/enjoy anything?
Well, yea. I mean, if you believe that if a woman consents to sex with her partner, but doesn’t really feel like doing it, then she’s been raped . . . how can you ever watch/read/enjoy anything?
Yeaaa. This is one of those rare cases where it would be perfectly appropriate to say her understanding of “feminism” is really man-hating. And the stuff about Joss Whedon’s wife and marriage is just not cool.
Yeaaa. This is one of those rare cases where it would be perfectly appropriate to say her understanding of “feminism” is really man-hating. And the stuff about Joss Whedon’s wife and marriage is just not cool.
Yeah, I noticed she was quick enough to reply to the compliments. Challenges of her racist and ad hominem attacks, not so much.
Yeah, I noticed she was quick enough to reply to the compliments. Challenges of her racist and ad hominem attacks, not so much.
Ooops, I give my customers suckers all the time when I am filling in as a teller. In my head I think of it as a fun thing to brighten the day. Like, wow! I got a sucker! Kind of like getting carded.
I might have to reconsider this now. :/
Ooops, I give my customers suckers all the time when I am filling in as a teller. In my head I think of it as a fun thing to brighten the day. Like, wow! I got a sucker! Kind of like getting carded.
I might have to reconsider this now. :/
No no! It’s totally fine. I appreciated it, it was just that on the heels of the other, it felt kind of like, “and next I’ll get a free pass to Chuck E Cheese.”
No no! It’s totally fine. I appreciated it, it was just that on the heels of the other, it felt kind of like, “and next I’ll get a free pass to Chuck E Cheese.”
Oh good because my tellers think I am an absolute dork for it, but I would say 75% of the time adults get a little grin on their face and a look that says, “I GOT A SUCKER!!!!”
Oh good because my tellers think I am an absolute dork for it, but I would say 75% of the time adults get a little grin on their face and a look that says, “I GOT A SUCKER!!!!”